Change Your Attitude ~ FREE E-BOOK
Changing a habit or even a long standing addiction, does not have to be as hard as you think. Our attitudes and beliefs are what keep us stuck in a rut or propel us forward to the future we dream of having.
WHAT’S A BELIEF? … It’s just a thought that you keep on repeating. Our negative beliefs are often not close to accurate, not even remotely true or even relevant to life today. They’re generally things we were taught or told or imagined because when we repeated them, we got the type of attention we were craving at the time … I look fat, I can’t cope, I’m depressed, I’m sick and tired, I’m afraid, I’m amazing, I’ve always worked things out, I’m getting better and better.
WHAT’S AN ATTITUDE? … It’s a combination of thoughts, beliefs, actions and conversations that we get involved in, which cause us to vibrate energetically in a particular way. They’re generally things we’ve decided to hold onto from the past that identify us as something in particular that makes us feel grounded, familiar, like we know who we are … a mother, an alcoholic, a lover, a loser, a fighter, a scaredy-cat, a battler, a survivor, a warrior, a winner, a worker, a boss, a millionaire, a lonely soul, a happily married person, an inventor, a dreamer, a conscious creator.
But a NEW ATTITUDE can be assumed, changed, adopted and inspired in an instant, with just a simple change of perception, a decision to choose again, a desire to become the person you always knew you really were inside.
This FREE E-BOOK, will help you do just that, by giving you examples of new attitudes you can encompass, new perceptions to change your point of view, new ideas to open your mind, new ways to expand your heart … enjoy!
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Depression Became A Habit
CONFESSION #191 … ONCE UPON A TIME I LET DEPRESSION BECOME A HABIT … of contradictory “though”, negative “word”, similar “action”.
Then I allowed getting RELIEF to become a habit,
finding benefit in each situation became a habit,
focusing on happier stuff became a habit,
thinking positive thoughts became a habit,
moving my body more became a habit,
believing in myself became a habit,
appreciating what I’ve already got became a habit,
and even loving who I am right now become a habit …
… then in a short amount of time,
being the magnificent person I’d really always been,
just became a way of life. ~ 500confessions.com
The Spiritual 12 Step Program
1 … Sometimes I feel powerless over this behaviour, and I’m looking forward to getting a handle on it.
2 … I know that everything I want is in a much brighter place than where I’ve been and that my inner being/source energy/God is forever calling me towards the light. It’s good for me to know that.
3 … Since the life I’ve lived has got me to this place, I’m deciding that this is the best place to start anew. I make peace with my past and allow it to stay where it is and know that it provides a firm footing to know what I don’t want and allows me to choose even strongly, what I DO want for my life instead.
4 … Life has caused me to know what I don’t want, which lets me know what I DO WANT. I’m now going to give my undivided attention towards WHAT I DO WANT! The moral inventory that I choose to see is that I AM MAGNIFICENT.
5 … When I admit that I’m a bad person or that I’ve done a terrible thing – I feel bad. That negative emotion lets me know that I’m looking at myself in a way that my inner being/source energy/God does not do. The more I admit my wrongdoings, the more disconnected I become. I’ve decided to stop doing that and focus on the things that I AM DOING WELL instead.
6 … I now understand that what I call God pays no attention to my defects and has only been seeing me as the perfect being that I AM. I’ve decided to do that too and see not only myself, but everyone else as the magnificent beings we ALL are inside.
7 … I can’t ask God to remove my shortcomings as God has never seen me as less than who I really am inside. As God doesn’t pay attention to the negatives, I’ve decided now release my awareness of them as well and become much MORE aware of my positive aspects instead.
8 … When I talk about the things I did in my PAST that were disappointing or harmful to others, I feel terrible, and I use that as my PRESENT excuse to hold myself apart from who I have become. All of us will benefit so much more by focusing on the brightness of the FUTURE that we wish to see unfolding before us instead.
9 … As much as it is nice to please others, I’m joyful in my knowledge that we all create our own reality. I will bring myself in alignment with my own inner being/source energy/God as best I can, but today I set everyone else free to create their own reality too and no longer need them to behave in any particular way so I can feel good about myself.
10 … Now I’m really flowing and I’m beginning to see myself the way my inner being/source energy/God knows who I really am inside. I don’t need to give attention to anything that is less than who I am becoming. I let go the past. I let go this last moment, I let go anything that is not who I intend to be and move gently towards the future I dream of creating.
11 … I use meditation (to quieten my mind) and prayers (of appreciation for what I’ve already been given) to gain a more conscious contact with my inner being/source energy/God as I understand it.
12 … There were things in my life that I didn’t know how to handle and I found temporary relief from the discomfort by using a substance to soothe the discord between me and my inner being/source energy/God. Now I know that I can get longer lasting relief by thinking about, talking about and focusing on things that make me feel better, that make me feel whole, that cause me to know the magnificent person I am inside and align me with my inner being/source energy/God. My example shows other people the POWER of giving complete attention to getting emotional relief first, to what makes them feel better, to what causes them to see their own magnificence and come into closer alignment with their inner being/source energy/God too. ~ re-written by the author of 500confessions.com with the amazing guidance of Abraham-Hicks™
How To Give Up An Addiction
TIP #47 … I ONLY HAVE ONE TIP ON HOW TO GIVE UP AN ADDICTION …
Decide what you want to be addicted to instead!
(Get addicted to love, life, to happiness, to bliss – you choose!)
… and know …
… You NEVER need to talk about your past again.
… You NEVER need to evaluate why you got there or how you got there and
… You NEVER EVER need to prove to anyone else that you’ve changed.
Just be who you want to be and move quietly and gently towards the future of your dreams. ~ ER
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Overcome Grief, Accept Death and Reassess Loss
The best way to help people overcome/accept/transition through grief is to become aware of our OWN beliefs about life and death, dispose of any false premises and create some empowering new meanings. Here are my thoughts …
1. DEATH IS ALL-WAYS A BLESSING … One of the major false premises we deal with around death (either physical death or the death of a relationship etc), is that death is a BAD THING. When examined closely, death is always a blessing, a relief from trauma, a bodily condition, the release of emotional or mental pain, an opportunity to take life to a new level … it is continued suffering without relief that would be a tragedy.
2. OUR BELOVED HAS RETURNED TO SOURCE ENERGY … I have yet to find anyone who doesn’t believe that there is something greater than what we are consciously aware of. Some sort of divine nature, creative force, God etc. The person who died has returned to the pure positive source energy where we all came from.
3. WE CAN STILL COMMUNICATE WITH THEM … I have yet to meet anyone again who doesn’t admit to having conversations with people either living or dead in their own minds. It is much easier to have uplifting communications with them when we’re in a more peaceful and relaxed “state of mind”. Anyone, even in the midst of grief is capable of shifting their focus from what they’re missing to what they could have instead, and this belief/theory sometimes provides tremendous incentive for people to move to a new level so they can once again talk to the person they are missing. In effect, once people have died, they are even more accessible to communicate with when we raise our level of conscious awareness.
4. DEATH ENCOURAGES FURTHER SPIRITUAL GROWTH … The death of someone we love usually generates more of an interest in our own spiritual growth. It can promote research into other possibilities like reincarnation, other religious beliefs and past lives etc which we may never have even considered before.
5. LIVING MORE FULLY ONCE WE FACE DEATH … Accepting that physical death is inevitable can make us more willing to live “with gay abandon” whilst we are here, to NOT take life for granted and to appreciate more fully each waking moment. We can ask our clients, what they might have done differently in hindsight and to set a new intention for the future.
6. IT IS NOT OUR BELOVED WE ARE REALLY MISSING … The last false premise I like to challenge, is that the pain we feel from losing someone we love is NOT because they are gone, it is because we have used their death as an excuse to disconnect, forget or disassociate from the connection to our own soul/ higher self. We cannot bring them back as such, but we do have the power to reconnect to the essence of “who we really are” … a lover, a giver, a magnificent creator, a source of life, inspiration and hope to those around us!
Blessing and love to all,
How To Change Behaviour
TIP #34 … I ONLY HAVE ONE TIP ON HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE … Only talk about where you want to go, what it looks like, how it feels and inspire the rest of us as well. ~ Elizabeth Richardson
When we’ve been doing the same thing for a long time, an old habit might seem hard to break, BUT there are some really simple techniques that can work like a charm to help you break FREE and start a new way of living.
What Is A Problem Behaviour?
Something we engage in repeatedly that causes pain, makes us feel bad, hurts us to think about it or has unpleasant consequences.
Whose Problem Is It?
If this problem behaviour is yours, then you have ALL the power in the world at your disposal to choose something different. But people just won’t change until they’re ready. Find out If You Really Want To Change below …
If this problem behavior belongs to someone else, then the REAL PROBLEM is not yours, not something you can change for them (even if they want to change), not something that you can control and you have chosen to focus on it in a way that makes you feel bad. You have perceived it as a problem and you have made it BIGGER than it needs to be. WHY NOT STOP DOING THAT! See Letting Go Of Bad Memories From The Past …
But Do You Really Want To Change?
According to psychoanalysis, every bad habit (and even illness) has a secondary gain, like pity, compassion, commiseration, other people supporting you, money etc or maybe someone just gives you more attention while you’re doing it. When we are yearning for love, even negative attention can make us feel wanted, familiar, connected.
If you’re ready to let go of the negative stuff you’re got so used to over time and develop more positive and better feeling things in your life, then read on …
How To Break The Pattern
Hypnosis cures are easiest as they often work on using our emotions to effect the mind, when most of us tend to use our minds to effect our emotions. Here’s a simple Eriksonian technique which suggests that changing only ONE aspect of an unwanted behaviour can interrupt the entire pattern.
“Change the how, when, where, what and with whom
a particular behaviour is acted out”
Examples Of Ways To Stimulate A Change
- a compulsive gambler might change WHO they go out to gamble with (like taking your mother with you), WHERE they go, WHAT time they go.
- a chronic smoker might change WHEN they light up a cigarette (imagining what it would be like to to smoke during a meal might put someone off for life).
- an overweight person might change WHERE they eat the food they crave (like while they’re on the toilet).
Are You Motivated By Pain Or Pleasure?
There are two types of people …
… those who are motivated away from pain and
… those who are drawn towards pleasure.
If you are more inspired by “feeling good”, you might get better results with Replacing Bad Habits With Something Better.
Letting Go Of Bad Memories From The Past
TIP #42 … I ONLY HAVE ONE TIP ON HOW TO LET GO OF THE BAD MEMORIES FROM THE PAST … realize that over time you’ve trained your mind to focus on the “pain” and that all it takes is to make a NEW decision to re-train your mind to focus on the “pleasure” instead! ~ Elizabeth Richardson
People only let go when they’re ready to choose something different … and it’s so much easier than you think!
Here is an Ernest Holmes quote that you may also find inspiring.
SHE LET GO
She let go. Without a thought or word, she let go.
She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the “right” reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all the memories that held her back. She let go of all the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line, She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forever more. ~ Ernest Holmes
How Long Does It Take To Change A Habit?
TIP #33 … I ONLY HAVE ONE TIP ON HOW TO CHANGE A BELIEF … stop talking about the belief you want to change and start talking about what you’d like to believe instead. It’s easier than you think! ~ Elizabeth Richardson
Jack Canfield (co-author of the best selling Chicken Soup For The Soul series of books) was talking about how long it takes to change a habit in an interview with Real Life Legends Club co founder, Janet Attwood. Some of his points made me think more clearly about the powerful effect that scientific research has to impact our belief system and about another method that works even quicker.
Beliefs Determine Each Success Or Failure …
… If we believe we can do something – we will!
If we believe we can’t do something – we won’t!
Whatever we believe, we always get to be right!
Did You Know …?
… that there’s scientific research to prove that a habit takes from around 30 to 45 days to change? Now that figure sounds quite achievable don’t you think? If you have been wanting to make a change to your lifestyle, eating patterns, level of addiction, maybe you’d even like to give away the bad habit of smoking, drugs or alcohol etc, the research shows that if you can make it to the 30 to 45 day mark you have a significantly higher chance of making a lasting change to your entire life.
Here’s The Proof …
… One of the ways this has been proven is by giving astronauts (prior to launching into space) concave lens glasses to wear during all their waking moments, which of course made their vision up-side-down. At around the 30 day mark, most of them could see the images the right way up, so the neuro-pathways in the brain had been re-wired to form new connections.
This scientific research suggests that if you stick with a new habit for around 30 days, you will have success.
Something More Powerful Than Proof …
… But there’s something that works even better, quicker, even easier … not needing proof and simply having FAITH. Having faith that YOU can change, having faith that everything always works out for the best, having faith that inside you are all the answers, having faith that you’ll be drawn to more empowering ways of living.
But It Takes A Commitment …
… a commitment to “feeling good again“.
What Habit Would You Like To Change …?
… Think about what you want to replace your old habit with, what you want to change it into? For example, instead of deciding you need to lose weight, focus on “getting happier“. If you want to give up smoking, focus on “feeling better“. What we FEEL, what we focus on, what we think about, what we talk, what we read, what we write, what we give our attention to determines the end result even more than any action we can take and is a really crucial element of making a permanent change to anything.
Here’s How To Feel Good Again …
… Some people focus on negative things (that make them feel bad) and hope that it will take away the PAIN. But they are like grumpy children having a tantrum, expecting their parents will give in to their whim.
… Other people focus on positive things (that make them feel good) and move towards PLEASURE. They are like happy children making the most of their time, smelling the flowers, dancing in the rain, finding delight in the simple things, expecting that “life” will give them even more.
“The ONLY reason we ever want to change anything is because we think it will make us feel better … when you do whatever it takes to FEEL GOOD NOW, your results will be instant!” – Elizabeth Richardson
How To Relax And Get Relief
Sometimes things happen that cause us to feel stress. We may not have the power to change what happens around us – but we do have the power to CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS and what’s happening inside us.
WHEN CONFRONTED WITH A STRESSFUL SITUATION YOU CAN GET RELIEF BY -
- BREATHING AND STAYING CALM Unless you are being chased by a pack of wolves you are much more able to creatively solve your challenges when you are calm. b-r-e-a-t-h-e
- REMOVING YOURSELF FROM THE CAUSE OF THE STRESS and the uncomfortable feelings (if you can) … get up, dance, go for a walk, choose somewhere quiet to think, meditate or pray, move around, punch some pillows, have a drink of water, take some time out etc.
- ASKING YOURSELF, “WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN?” This often tends to bring the challenge back into it’s correct proportions. When we are stressed, our situations usually look much bigger than they really are or need to be.
- DECIDING IF IS THIS SOMETHING YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE? Think of the serenity prayer which says, …”God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”
- CHANGING YOUR FOCUS. If there is nothing you can change in your outer circumstances you can easily change what you’re focusing on. Think about the good things that might come out of this situation or think about something different altogether.
- THINKING ABOUT THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. Write down a list of your possible solutions … this helps you get a better perspective on what is happening. Keep in mind that often the best solutions are to stop thinking about, talking about and giving attention to the problem completely and to get on with things that make you feel good.
- TAKING ACTION TOWARDS CREATING A SOLUTION. This may involve contacting the person who can do something about what is happening around you … Unless you are asking for expert advice, there is not much value in talking or complaining to other people. Ask for what you want and ask directly to the person who can give it to you.
- LETTING GO OF THE PAST AND FOCUSING ON A BETTER FUTURE. When you have done all that you can do, congratulate yourself, relax again and allow even more solutions to be brought toward you…Trust that everything always works out for the best. Remember the times when things sorted themselves out without you even needing to do anything about it. Know that everything will be OK!
Every challenge presents us with an opportunity to learn and grow and to make better choices. Things might not always turn out the way we expect or think they should … but they always turn out for the best – well, that’s what I like to believe anyway! ~ Elizabeth Richardson
Replace Bad Habits With Something Better
Sometimes we focus so much on getting rid of our bad habits that we keep “activating” the problem instead of moving towards the solution. When I’m ready to leave an old habit behind, I pick something so much more enticing and place my focus entirely on that. So I PLAY GAMES WITH LIFE …
… I replaced being constantly unhappy with “finding the blessings”
… I replaced addiction to new relationships with “noticing the positive aspects of the one I’ve got right now”
… I replaced being critical with “practicing self control and holding my tongue” (very fulfilling and empowering)
… I replaced the guilt from comfort eating with “finding appreciation for taking a few minutes to relax” (whether I had food in my mouth or not)
… I replaced being too vigilant with “giving myself time to enjoy what life has to offer”
… I replaced depression with “let’s allow the anger to surface by punching my pillows and yelling in private”
… I replaced anger with “find someone else to blame so I could stop being so hard on myself”
… I replaced blame with “writing down how bad I thought my life really was”
… Then after I’d written down how bad I though my life really was, I found myself thinking of a few good things too. And that was the beginning of a whole new outlook.
You see, habits are a process. They aren’t something we MUST let go, just something we CAN find a more enticing replacement for. Don’t you think?
Someone Elses Addiction Can’t Effect Me
THE ONLY TIME SOMEONE ELSES ADDICTIONS CAN EFFECT ME … is when I give it more power by noticing it, talking about it, resenting it, hating it, fighting against it or having any strong emotion about it at all.
It isn’t the addiction that makes me feel bad, but my powerful attention to the negative aspects certainly does.
The key to a happy life isn’t to manipulate the conditions around me so I can feel better, the key is to change the “meaning” I give it and feel happy no matter what happens. ~ 500confessions.com
The Best Part Of Life Is Yet To Come
When I’m enchanted by the future and not obsessed with the past,
life takes on new meaning where no dark shadows can be cast.
There’s not one thing I can dream of that cannot be given,
By this abundant universe … vibrationally driven.
When I feel positive emotion all good things are drawn,
towards me with haste, soon after the thought has been born.
To live life with forward vision of what’s possible to create,
is more fulfilling than talking about the past for heavens sake.
When the time comes to ask someone, “how have you been?”
instead I prefer to say, “tell me your dreams!”
It inspires a more unique conversation, I’d say
and helps BOTH of us have a much brighter day.
You see, everything happens because of how we are feeling.
You know that positive emotions all create healing.
Let the next words you speak be of happiness and hope
And not about how you’re worried you won’t cope.
There’s one important piece of advice I’d like to impart …
to let the power of the universe be called through your heart.
Whatever you are wanting, relax your mind and allow
yourself to feel it as if you already have it right now.
No longer speak of the bad stuff … but let the good memories remain.
When you live like this, things will never be the same.
Our future hopes and dreams still keep calling us home,
for the very best part of life, is yet to come.
© 2010 Elizabeth Richardson
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Relief For The Depressed
“For someone who feels pretty good most of the time, getting angry is like taking a step backwards … for someone who has lived much of their time feeling depressed and powerless, getting angry is like a life-giving breath of fresh air.” ~ ER
ALL OUR EMOTIONS ARE USEFUL – They provide us with a direct indication that what we’re thinking about is either moving us towards what we want for our life, or further away from it.
For someone who is depressed, in despair, feeling powerless or grieving, they immediately feel better once they allow themselves to feel some guilt or hate or anger … to them, it feels like RELIEF, like they can finally breathe again … their energy level increases … they start to feel motivated … they might express their anger openly by yelling, breaking something, maybe even hurting themselves … but it feels SO MUCH BETTER than how they felt before.
Then we come along and tell them they should be loving and accepting and kind and good instead … and most often they will begin to feel guilty and down they spiral into the abyss again.
If they’re wise, if they’ve really had enough, if they decide they want to feel better no matter what, they will most often move to BLAME, which is an even BETTER feeling than anger.
Then we come along and tell them they’re even more inappropriate. But we aren’t walking in their shoes … we aren’t feeling what they’ve been feeling … we are judging them from our limited standpoint … and we are ignorant to the RELIEF they are getting by moving up slowly into a higher vibrational emotion.
Make whatever they’re feeling be OK and get out of their way.
- IT’S NATURAL TO WANT TO FEEL BETTER!
- IT’S NATURAL TO SEEK RELIEF!
- IT’S NATURAL FOR PEOPLE TO WORK THROUGH THEIR OWN EMOTIONS WITHOUT SOMEONE ELSE STEPPING IN THE WAY!
- IT’S NATURAL TO WANT TO LOVE!
- IT’S NATURAL TO WANT TO LIVE!
- LET NATURE TAKE ITS COURSE AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!
I always refer back to the EMOTIONAL GUIDANCE SCALE below and find it highly valuable when accepting my own emotions and in dealing with others …
Blessing and love to all,
From Single Into A Relationship
“The relationship we are first seeking is the one with ourself … then the rest of life happens effortlessly … like water flowing gently in a steam, perfectly filling each nook and cranny that’s been expertly carved out of our desire for what we really want to experience.” ~ ER
1. DEFINING WHO I REALLY AM – I never once referred to myself as single just because I wasn’t in a relationship. I am a writer, a woman, a mother, a web designer etc. I am also deeply connected to my own spiritual nature and the source of all of life.
2. CHECKING MY PERCEPTIONS – Is there something wrong because a past relationship didn’t work in a way that keeps us living together? My ex’s are still my friends. (My fiancée met my ex husband last weekend. He treated him like one of the family … fiancée still reeling from shock … lol)
3. BEING WHO I WISH I WAS – I imagined how I would feel if I were in a relationship. I had conversations about the wonderful things a relationship brings to my life. I wrote on facebook as if I was deeply in love to the point that when I announced I had started a relationship, most people thought that I was already in one.
4. GETTING OVER IT – I no longer look for feedback from others – ever! I have become so certain inside myself of who I am than no one elses opinion can shake me from that. No one ever questions my credentials … but people contact me from all around the world on a myriad of subjects hoping I will be the catalyst to change their life.
5. WHAT GOT ME HERE? – My insatiable desire to grow my mind, to expand my heart, to live fully, to dive in deeply without fear of what I could lose and confidence only in what I could gain and the most precious guidance from inside me that tells me clearly if something feels good or if it feels “off” … my own inner being!
Blessing and love to all,
P.S. MOST PEOPLE LOOK FOR A MATE WITH CERTAIN QUALITIES .. who is compatible, who will love them, who will give them what they need … but I look inside for ME first. I am true to myself no matter what others might be thinking, I focus on the best attributes of each person no matter what they might be saying, I find happiness no matter what else might be happening .. and the right one comes along, no effort at all. ~ ER
Giving A Man Or A Woman What They Need
A WOMAN will generally not ask directly for what she wants from a man though she will give him many hints. She wants him to be so interested in her that he will figure it out. If she seems like she’s criticizing and teasing, there is something she is needing — reassurance and love. Take criticism as her way of challenging you to step up and be MORE masculine and love her no matter what. Don’t be offended by this. It is a natural part of feminine energy which stimulates the competitive nature of a man. Surprise her with something you know she enjoys. When she seems unbearably sad, fearful or stressed, don’t criticise or try to change her for this. Understand it is one side of feminine energy and if she feels your love and understanding it can often be converted into playfulness and passion and will generally pass much quicker as you give her your COMPLETE attention. Respond to her with humour, lightness, create surprise and always reassure her. A man who can cheer a woman up is extremely sexy. She will begin to trust you will be there for her through hard times as well as easy. When she trusts you she will open herself to you and radiate femininity even brighter than before. Stop focusing on yourself and finding reasons to hold back. Give her what she needs.
Feminine Energy naturally values LOVE & CONNECTION – Find out how you can show her you love her the most, then DO IT in surprising ways. Generally giving her your full presence (without being distracted, answering the phone or falling asleep … lol) works wonders.
A MAN often seems like he doesn’t care about a woman, but most times he is confused about the way she is communicating and about whether he can make her happy. Gently encourage him to show you love in the ways that mean the most to you. Find things he does well then thank and appreciate him for them. BE open to him. Think of, talk about and do things with him that make you happy. Ask him to do things for you by expressing how grateful you are for his help, love, caring and advice. Your happiness is most important to him and if you are happy while he is around, he will feel more empowered to create other opportunities for you to enjoy. Allow him to take care of you, to protect you, to make plans and to provide for you. Remember and acknowledge how he has done things really well in the past. Instead of criticising, try to influence him with pleasure, playfulness and seductive teasing.
Masculine Energy naturally values SIGNIFICANCE. Tell him that he is your hero. Make him the most important part of your life (yes, even more important that the children) and find out how you can best contribute to his life in significant ways.
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