1 … Sometimes I feel powerless over this behaviour, and I’m looking forward to getting a handle on it.

2 … I know that everything I want is in a much brighter place than where I’ve been and that my inner being/source energy/God is forever calling me towards the light. It’s good for me to know that.

3 … Since the life I’ve lived has got me to this place, I’m deciding that this is the best place to start anew. I make peace with my past and allow it to stay where it is and know that it provides a firm footing to know what I don’t want and allows me to choose even strongly, what I DO want for my life instead.

4 … Life has caused me to know what I don’t want, which lets me know what I DO WANT. I’m now going to give my undivided attention towards WHAT I DO WANT! The moral inventory that I choose to see is that I AM MAGNIFICENT.

5 … When I admit that I’m a bad person or that I’ve done a terrible thing – I feel bad. That negative emotion lets me know that I’m looking at myself in a way that my inner being/source energy/God does not do. The more I admit my wrongdoings, the more disconnected I become. I’ve decided to stop doing that and focus on the things that I AM DOING WELL instead.

6 … I now understand that what I call God pays no attention to my defects and has only been seeing me as the perfect being that I AM. I’ve decided to do that too and see not only myself, but everyone else as the magnificent beings we ALL are inside.

7 … I can’t ask God to remove my shortcomings as God has never seen me as less than who I really am inside. As God doesn’t pay attention to the negatives, I’ve decided now release my awareness of them as well and become much MORE aware of my positive aspects instead.

8 … When I talk about the things I did in my PAST that were disappointing or harmful to others, I feel terrible, and I use that as my PRESENT excuse to hold myself apart from who I have become. All of us will benefit so much more by focusing on the brightness of the FUTURE that we wish to see unfolding before us instead.

9 … As much as it is nice to please others, I’m joyful in my knowledge that we all create our own reality. I will bring myself in alignment with my own inner being/source energy/God as best I can, but today I set everyone else free to create their own reality too and no longer need them to behave in any particular way so I can feel good about myself.

10 … Now I’m really flowing and I’m beginning to see myself the way my inner being/source energy/God knows who I really am inside. I don’t need to give attention to anything that is less than who I am becoming. I let go the past. I let go this last moment, I let go anything that is not who I intend to be and move gently towards the future I dream of creating.

11 … I use meditation (to quieten my mind) and prayers (of appreciation for what I’ve already been given) to gain a more conscious contact with my inner being/source energy/God as I understand it.

12 … There were things in my life that I didn’t know how to handle and I found temporary relief from the discomfort by using a substance to soothe the discord between me and my inner being/source energy/God. Now I know that I can get longer lasting relief by thinking about, talking about and focusing on things that make me feel better, that make me feel whole, that cause me to know the magnificent person I am inside and align me with my inner being/source energy/God. My example shows other people the POWER of giving complete attention to getting emotional relief first, to what makes them feel better, to what causes them to see their own magnificence and come into closer alignment with their inner being/source energy/God too. ~ re-written by the author of 500confessions.com with the amazing guidance of Abraham-Hicks™

THE MOST POWERFUL PROCESS I HAVE EVER USED was NOT through some expensive program, with the aid of a state-of-the-art machine, something that holds a copyright or even in need of instructions, and yet it has been the catalyst for enhancing my entire outlook on life and attracting more magnificent circumstances than I could possibly imagine.

Each day I would write as many answers as I could to these three simple questions …

WHAT DO I REALLY APPRECIATE … ?

WHAT AM I HAPPY ABOUT … ?

WHAT HAVE I DONE WELL TODAY … ?

“We can’t get the right answers until we start asking the right questions.”

PLEASE NOTE: This Empowering Process has been designed specifically for an organization where a CONFLICT has occurred that still remains unresolved. It can easily be adapted to suit individuals, relationships, business associate disagreements or family situations. It DOES NOT use the traditional approaches of re-hashing the actual issue. Instead it works on understanding the thoughts, beliefs and behavior that created the problem in the first place. Just reading through the document and answering the EMPOWERING QUESTIONS produces quality responses that has the potential to shift the perspective of one or more of the people involved in the dispute to a point of better understanding and feeling good about their choices, decisions and actions … PAVING THE WAY FOR RESOLUTION TO OCCUR NATURALLY!

The FULL PROFESSIONAL CONFLICT RESOLUTION PROCESS (designed specially for your particular situation is available by requesting an online consultation) and works further on understanding the basics of “Why We Do What We Do” and empowers YOU recognize the belief structures and meanings you (and other people) may have given to circumstances that occur in life, providing the tools to CHANGE ANYTHING you choose to change and respond in healthier and more life-enhancing ways. As with anything in life, the benefit is gained through the experience of the process, so feel free to download the current Empowering Conflict Resolution Process and try it for yourself.

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“We can learn more in 5 minutes about someone when dealing with problems, than we can in 5 months when things are great.” – Dan Kuschell

“We can view problems as something to hate or we can choose to view problems as CHALLENGES and OPPORTUNITIES to FIND A SOLUTION.”

What is the facilitators’ vision for the future? This resolution of this matter raises the level of consciousness right throughout the organization. ALL members of the organization find a resourcefulness they didn’t know existed and these NEW and beneficial ways of problem solving, filter throughout their families, relationships, business associations’ and into the wider community.

What is the facilitators’ mission? To encourage the individuals to find resolution – not compromise. Resolution is a win/win solution. No matter how you look at it, compromise is generally a lose/lose situation. Raise your expectations of what YOU are capable of. Know that resolution is possible. It only takes ONE person to stop fighting and see things in a different light or from a different viewpoint.

The 6 questions on the bottom of the page are designed specifically for that purpose.

What values does the facilitator intend to live by? Heartfelt understanding, honesty, openness, integrity, faith, compassion, determination, courage, willingness to grow and learn, desire to contribute to a better organization/community structure etc

Do you have any other important values to add to the list?

What are the facilitators’ goals? For the individuals to move to a position of understanding and feeling good about their choices, decisions and actions. Feeling bad, feeling overwhelmed or feeling guilty are immobilizing emotions and are never the goal. Feeling ashamed or vulnerable are useful emotions and often signifies the point of a shift in perception or belief. Feeling relief often follows. The purpose is to grow from this experience. If we don’t grow, we die. The same applies to any organization or business.

What are YOUR goals? How are you feeling about the situation right now? How much has this problem impacted your relationships at home and with other people and the generally feeling of satisfaction you have about your life? You might like to score this on a scale of 1 to 10 (with 10 being the highest impact). How would you like to feel at the end of the resolution process? How would you like the other person to feel?

Rules of the Game

>> Be willing to support our vision, mission, values and goals.

>> Speak supportively. Always assume the other person has good intentions. Hold the person “innocent” until proven “guilty”.

>> Listen Actively (Look at the person and be patient as they are speaking. Repeat the important parts of the conversation back to them so they know you have heard them and can also hear what they themselves have said, in case clarification is needed).

>> Acknowledge whatever is being communicated as true for the speaker at that moment.

>> Complete your agreements:
a) Make only agreements that you are willing and intend to keep.
b) Communicate any potential broken agreement at the first appropriate time.
c) Clear up any broken agreement at the first appropriate opportunity.

>> Do not speak about a problem unless you first communicate a possible solution. If a problem arises, first look to the system for corrections and then communicate your solution to the person who can do something about it. Do not indulge in or listen to gossip.

>> Be effective and efficient (Optimize every event … do more with less).

>> Have the willingness to win and to allow others to win too (win/win). Work towards resolution, not compromise.

>> Focus on what works. Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions.

>> When in doubt, check your intuition.

>> Take Responsibility – do not lay blame, make excuses or justify.

>> A dispute with another person should always be taken directly to that person AFTER doing the process below. If an upset lasts longer than 50 minutes, the upset party(s) to seek support, from a neutral third party.

Here are some practical strategies for processing your own thoughts, focus and language in beneficial ways AFTER you’ve had a dispute with another person.

“Identify your problems, but give your power and energy to solutions.” – Tony Robbins

1 … How did you handle the situation WELL? Sometimes we assume we haven’t handled a particular situation well. Sometimes our assumptions are NOT the truth. How did you handle this situation REALLY WELL in ways that you are overlooking or under-estimating? You might like to physically STAND UP and turn around so you can get a different perspective. This is a technique we can use to activate our PHYSICAL BODIES at the same time we are CHANGING OUR MIND. Use it whenever you need to make a change.

2 … How could you have handled the situation better? Of course, if there is a threat of violence, removing yourself from the situation and getting professional help is the BEST THING YOU CAN DO. But, is there something you would do next time if you were confronted with the same type of situation? How could you handle the situation better?

3 … Think of three or more qualities or traits you admire and appreciate in the other person. Many times we FOCUS on only the persons “bad points” and ignore the “good” when a more empowering way is to focus on the things we like about the person and “let the rest go”. My guess is that you probably do that when you think about yourself as well. Do YOU focus more on the parts of yourself you don’t like rather than acknowledge and cultivate the stuff you do like? If you can do that for someone else, you can do that for yourself too. What are some of the other nice qualities the person possesses that you could add to your story to give it more balance? What are some of the nice qualities that you possess too?

4 … Think of three qualities or traits you DON’T LIKE in the other person. Then make a decision that you will NOT be like them. Just because someone treats you badly doesn’t mean you have to treat them, yourself or other people badly too. Lead by example and behave in ways that you admire. Treat other people as you would like them to treat you.

5 … What makes you FEEL HAPPY OR SATISFIED about this situation? Sometimes we focus on what makes us unhappy OR upset and only see one half of the equation. It is a way we lie to ourselves in order to BE RIGHT or be REACTIVE instead of being PROACTIVE. Do your best to answer the question with feelings from your heart NOT from your reactive mind?

6 … List the qualities, learnings and benefits you could gain from REALLY solving this problem effectively if it were to happen again. This serves to move you away from meeting your need for variety, drama and excitement in less than healthy ways. You might like to READ OVERCOMING DRAMA IN OUR LIVES to get a better understanding of how easy it is to get involved in drama situations and how to get out of them. Perhaps you could even walk forward a few paces (into the future) before you answer the question, then feel how it feels to have truly re-solved this problem for yourself – knowing what to do next comes easily from this place of REMEMBERING who we truly are at the core of our being. YOU truly are magnificent!

To have an Empowering Process specially designed for your particular situation, request an online consultation and we will assist you in getting the results you truly want.

MESSAGE FROM THE FOUNDER: This Conflict Resolution Process has been developed by Elizabeth Richardson using various methods including simple goal setting practices, rules adapted from large organizations such as the “Money and You” Network and portions of the Strategic Intervention model (physiology, focus and language). It is by no means complete and is not meant to take the place of a facilitated Professional Conflict Resolution process. However, I feel this written and simple form may become profoundly useful as a guide for others. You may also request an online consultation to have a PROFESSIONAL Conflict Resolution Process designed specifically for your situation. As with anything in life, the most LONG TERM BENEFIT is gained through the experience of the process in its complete form. Your feedback is always valued and appreciated and may be left in the comment box below.

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THERE ARE TWO PATHS IN RELATIONSHIPS – Those that move us further apart from each other and those that draw us closer together.

Strategies, techniques and rituals make an enormous difference to the stability of a relationship, yet nothing has more of a profound impact on the longevity of the bond that’s created than the TYPE of relationship you choose to play at and there are three basic types to choose from -

1. IT’S ALL ABOUT ME – you give ME what I want. YOU are 100% responsible for making ME happy.
2. TRADING RELATIONSHIP – you give me what I want and I’ll give you what you want. WE are responsible for 50% each.
3. SELFLESS UNCONDITIONAL RELATIONSHIP – I want for you what you want for you. I AM 100% response-able for YOUR response. High level intimacy. Greatest opportunity for personal AND spiritual growth.

If you choose to play at the highest level, this beautiful and inspiring poster will remind you of your commitment to giving you mate what means the most to THEM, not what YOU think they should want, but what they truly need … and if you say words like these to each other, miracles may happen in your life and the lives of those who witness your special bond.

Please download this with our kindest wishes by clicking on the poster below …

A man would be wise to do something he may never have done before with the powerful energy of an angry woman — TO INVITE HER TO EXPRESS IT DIRECTLY TO HIM — for him to listen, to give HER (not the words) his full attention, feel what SHE is feeling and NOT take it personally. What she has to say can often be taken VERY personally if he listens with his mind …

… if he HEARS with his heart he will feel his love, his resolve to care for her, his passion to be with her completely. It is a strength of character, a powerful masculine attitude that rises from the core of a man which says,

“I love you no matter what you say, no matter what you do, no matter how you are. I will take care of you no matter what energy you throw at me. Bring it on. Let me fight this battle for you and show you the depth of my love.”

With this attitude and willingness to allow the woman be herself, for as long and as intense as she needs, she will begin to trust that HE will be there for her, she will feel how much he cares, she will respect his determination, his courage, he will melt her heart, warm her body and own her very soul. For most women, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

THIS IS THE REALM OF A TRUE HERO, A REAL WARRIOR, THE MOST COURAGEOUS MAN ON EARTH.

Do you have a bad habit of thinking unhappy thoughts about yourself or your life? I know that sometimes I slip and think “I’m not good enough” OR “I can’t do something”. Just lately I’ve been wondering how I’m going to create an income by doing what I love to do, which is helping people to overcome their bad habits and negative thinking.

I was just listening to an interview with Dan Kuschell who is an incredibly successful entrepreneur. He’s trained over 50,000 people in direct marketing skills, and he has just completed writing his first book: A Champion Vision: Awaken a Champion in Your Life, Relationships and Business.

Dan teaches the skills and techniques of creating income by following our own passions. Just in this past couple years, several of Dan’s students have begun making over $100,000 a week—yes, I said a week—within six months of beginning their studies with him.

Part of the foundation Dan used to get to where he is now was by asking 3 powerful questions of himself each day. He says that he doesn’t even recall where he learned these three questions. He knows he didn’t invent them. What he does share is that answering these three questions became something incredibly powerful for him in only a handful of months. First of all, he started answering these three questions, which was a very challenging thing to do. He used this process for two weeks prior to working with a new mentor. When he got there, he was doing the same presentations, or so he thought, but all of a sudden, he started attracting different things into his life.

Dan says he became a passion magnet because he answered these three questions on a daily basis. He challenges people to do this for as little as two weeks and then watch what happens to you as a person and how opportunities start popping up, things mentally, physically, socially, spiritually and financially.

When he applied this principle, he admitted — for the most part he had attracted the wrong kind of person in his life as a mate. What ended up happening is by starting this process, he actually attracted the angel into his life, who today is his wife.

Roughly in about 90 days of going to work with his new mentor and starting to apply these principles to his business, he earned more in three months than he had the previous year.

It’s just amazing what these three questions can do.

I’m about to try this for myself and I’m committed to doing it for 30 days – simply because I know of scientifically based research that proves that NEW habits and empowering processes can change our mindset FOREVER in as little as one month.

After answering these three questions just once today, I know that one of them has changed my entire outlook already. Now that’s simply empowering. I wonder if you’ll have the same magnificent results too. Please let us know by leaving a comment in the box below.

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