Have you ever felt bad, guilty or ashamed of something you’ve said or done?
I sure have – I’ve just been through what I would consider to be a fairly dramatic and adventurous week. In the process of writing down the story of what happened and examining things I’d said and done from all aspects, I started to feel bad about a coupe of “stupid statements” I had made to someone.
Feeling bad or guilty about something tends to immobilize us and prevent us from moving forward with our lives.
The bad feelings can also get “stacked” on top of each other until we feel even worse if they don’t “get cleared” as soon as possible.
After sitting in my room trying to figure out how I could change my thoughts about the “stupid statements” I’d made and feeling progressively distressed and annoyed with myself, I remembered something really important … the best way to clear any emotional distress is to TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT IT. First to yourself and then to the other people involved or someone else.
I made a phone call and apologized. I cried with deep regret and a sense of shame. That process served to clear those bad feelings and helped me to decide what I would do again if faced with the same situation. I’ve been making lots of mistakes at the moment yet I know the learnings are more valuable than could ever be measured. – Elizabeth Richardson (January 2010)
NOW Three Years Later I’ve Come To A New Conclusion …
I’m feeling the way I’m feeling because of what I’m focusing on … Period!
So now I focus on something that makes me feel better … And I always do!
It’s so simple.
Elizabeth Richardson (February 2013)