How To Change Behaviour
TIP #34 … I ONLY HAVE ONE TIP ON HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE … Only talk about where you want to go, what it looks like, how it feels and inspire the rest of us as well. ~ Elizabeth Richardson
When we’ve been doing the same thing for a long time, an old habit might seem hard to break, BUT there are some really simple techniques that can work like a charm to help you break FREE and start a new way of living.
What Is A Problem Behaviour?
Something we engage in repeatedly that causes pain, makes us feel bad, hurts us to think about it or has unpleasant consequences.
Whose Problem Is It?
If this problem behaviour is yours, then you have ALL the power in the world at your disposal to choose something different. But people just won’t change until they’re ready. Find out If You Really Want To Change below …
If this problem behavior belongs to someone else, then the REAL PROBLEM is not yours, not something you can change for them (even if they want to change), not something that you can control and you have chosen to focus on it in a way that makes you feel bad. You have perceived it as a problem and you have made it BIGGER than it needs to be. WHY NOT STOP DOING THAT! See Letting Go Of Bad Memories From The Past …
But Do You Really Want To Change?
According to psychoanalysis, every bad habit (and even illness) has a secondary gain, like pity, compassion, commiseration, other people supporting you, money etc or maybe someone just gives you more attention while you’re doing it. When we are yearning for love, even negative attention can make us feel wanted, familiar, connected.
If you’re ready to let go of the negative stuff you’re got so used to over time and develop more positive and better feeling things in your life, then read on …
How To Break The Pattern
Hypnosis cures are easiest as they often work on using our emotions to effect the mind, when most of us tend to use our minds to effect our emotions. Here’s a simple Eriksonian technique which suggests that changing only ONE aspect of an unwanted behaviour can interrupt the entire pattern.
“Change the how, when, where, what and with whom
a particular behaviour is acted out”
Examples Of Ways To Stimulate A Change
- a compulsive gambler might change WHO they go out to gamble with (like taking your mother with you), WHERE they go, WHAT time they go.
- a chronic smoker might change WHEN they light up a cigarette (imagining what it would be like to to smoke during a meal might put someone off for life).
- an overweight person might change WHERE they eat the food they crave (like while they’re on the toilet).
Are You Motivated By Pain Or Pleasure?
There are two types of people …
… those who are motivated away from pain and
… those who are drawn towards pleasure.
If you are more inspired by “feeling good”, you might get better results with Replacing Bad Habits With Something Better.
