When making any lasting changes in my life, three things generally need to occur for them to be truly permanent. Sometimes they happen naturally, but most often I deliberately intend to make a change on each of these levels:
1. I change the way I THINK about things that have happened in the past.
2. I improve the way I SPEAK about my the past.
3. I then allow my NEW ACTIONS to speak even louder than my words.
Changing long term habits of thinking is sometimes easier said than done.
If you’re having difficulties in changing your thoughts, you might like to try this process in the reverse order. For example, if you’ve been complaining about not having enough money and you want to experience abundance, change an ACTION like perhaps giving money away in a way you’ve never done before, then TALK about what you’ve done (in a positive way of course) and pretty soon your THOUGHTS will change to those that naturally experience more abundance … BUT,
“I do it because it feels GOOD,
not because I think I should!” ~ ER
Here are some other useful ideas to help you on your way.
STOP beating yourself up for having problems! Feeling guilty or bad about yourself just DOESN’T work and never has.
STOP telling yourself you’re not good enough, not strong enough, not rich enough, not thin enough, not smart enough … or any other negative comment about yourself … it’s self destructive to talk like that about yourself … just stop doing it!
STOP telling everyone about your problems, the sympathy and attention you get might be more important to you than getting rid of the actual problem – watch out very carefully for this.
STOP listening to the news, sad songs, horrible stories and watching bad stuff on television. This stuff sticks to your unconscious mind. Why do you think corporations pay such high prices to advertise? Because they know that your mind can easily be manipulated when you are relaxed.
STOP spreading gossip and bad news. Making other people feel bad does NOT make you feel better. It is destructive to your relationship with others and your relationship with yourself.
STOP hanging around people who have bad habits, negative attitudes and destructive lifestyles. While you’re rebuilding your own strength, you are generally only as good as the company you keep.
START doing things that make you feel good. People are more motivated to change when they are happily engaged in enjoyable activities.
START telling yourself you are good enough, strong enough, rich enough, thin enough, smart enough … or any other positive comment about yourself … it’s healthy to have a positive self image, even if you don’t believe it yet … just start doing it! A belief is just a thought you keep thinking, so now it’s time to start thinking something new.
START telling people ONLY the good stuff that’s happening in your life. If you can’t think of something good to say, don’t say anything at all and ask other people to tell you something good that’s happened to them too. Pretty soon you’ll get the hang of it.
START taking care of your mind. Be conscious of the “small thoughts” that are destructive to your growth and change them as soon as you realize them, meditate, read uplifting books, watch only happy shows, find something to laugh about, listen to more good stories.
START taking care of your body, choose a bit healthier food each day, go to the gym occasionally, ride a bike, take more walks in nature, go to the beach, treat yourself well by getting a massage, having heart warming sex or doing some exercise that makes you feel good.
START complimenting people for something nice, like the way they are dressed, their personality, their pleasant attitude etc. What you see in others, you’ll see in yourself.
START finding some new friends with healthy attitudes, lifestyles and bank balances. The good habits these people adopt will rub off on you too.
If you’ve got some other ideas to include on this short list, feel free to add them in the comment box below. Your suggestion might be profoundly beneficial for someone else.