It doesn’t matter how old we get, how much we protect ourselves from harm or how incredibly wise we think we are, it’s perfectly natural to be surprised by something that happens and have it effect us negatively for a while … but not forever!
From the loss of a pet or the loss of a wallet to the loss of a limb, there is nothing that can’t be made to feel so much better with just a few simple steps.
When Something Traumatic Has Happened, Here’s What To Do
- GET RELIEF … relax, cry, get angry, breathe, go for a run, take a tablet, get help, sleep, do whatever it takes to get physical, mental, emotional and spiritual relief.
- MAKE PEACE WITH IT … don’t keep running it through my mind and wondering what I could have done differently, don’t try to push it away, deny it or declare it as bad … that just keeps the energy vibrating. Simply accept that it’s happened and allow it to be for now.
- SLOW THE ENERGY DOWN … No matter what’s happened, there are elements in it that have contained high energy and moments of calmness and quiet. Stop concentrating so much on the dramatic aspects and talk about it in more general ways, then when I’m ready, stop talking about it completely. Minimize the trauma and expand the peace.
- DISTRACT MYSELF … Years ago, I used to think that of I worked on a problem I could make it better, but all that does is keep me focused intently on what I DON’T want. These days I know that the quality of my life depends entirely on what I give my attention to. So now I give attention to “watching” comedies, “being” with people who are generally happy, “breathing” deeper, “moving” my body in fun ways (like dancing, walking or playing in the park), “drinking” lots of water, “smelling” the roses and “THINKING” about things that make me feel good … and when I feel good, solutions are naturally inspired!
- REINFORCE THE POSITIVE … Think about what’s worked. Remember how well I’ve got through other things before. Realise how resourceful I really am.
- FIND SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO … The only thing I can do to change the past, is to take charge of how I let it effect me in the present … and then find as many things to look forward to in the future.
- CHANGE THE STORY … The story I tell inside my mind (and to other people) has a profound effect on how I feel about myself and my life. Just because something is true, doesn’t mean I need to keep focusing on it. Any story can be changed just a little, to one that feels a bit better, one that finds the benefits, one with a more fulfilling ending, one that inspires others.
- HAVE FAITH … that problems often lead me quicker to where I really wanted to go, that there is a blessing hidden in every adversity, that something wonderful will come out of it all … and it will.