Relief For The Depressed
“For someone who feels pretty good most of the time, getting angry is like taking a step backwards … for someone who has lived much of their time feeling depressed and powerless, getting angry is like a life-giving breath of fresh air.” ~ ER
ALL OUR EMOTIONS ARE USEFUL – They provide us with a direct indication that what we’re thinking about is either moving us towards what we want for our life, or further away from it.
For someone who is depressed, in despair, feeling powerless or grieving, they immediately feel better once they allow themselves to feel some guilt or hate or anger … to them, it feels like RELIEF, like they can finally breathe again … their energy level increases … they start to feel motivated … they might express their anger openly by yelling, breaking something, maybe even hurting themselves … but it feels SO MUCH BETTER than how they felt before.
Then we come along and tell them they should be loving and accepting and kind and good instead … and most often they will begin to feel guilty and down they spiral into the abyss again.
If they’re wise, if they’ve really had enough, if they decide they want to feel better no matter what, they will most often move to BLAME, which is an even BETTER feeling than anger.
Then we come along and tell them they’re even more inappropriate. But we aren’t walking in their shoes … we aren’t feeling what they’ve been feeling … we are judging them from our limited standpoint … and we are ignorant to the RELIEF they are getting by moving up slowly into a higher vibrational emotion.
Make whatever they’re feeling be OK and get out of their way.
- IT’S NATURAL TO WANT TO FEEL BETTER!
- IT’S NATURAL TO SEEK RELIEF!
- IT’S NATURAL FOR PEOPLE TO WORK THROUGH THEIR OWN EMOTIONS WITHOUT SOMEONE ELSE STEPPING IN THE WAY!
- IT’S NATURAL TO WANT TO LOVE!
- IT’S NATURAL TO WANT TO LIVE!
- LET NATURE TAKE ITS COURSE AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!
I always refer back to the EMOTIONAL GUIDANCE SCALE below and find it highly valuable when accepting my own emotions and in dealing with others …
Blessing and love to all,
