Sometimes we focus so much on getting rid of our bad habits that we keep “activating” the problem instead of moving towards the solution.
When I’m really ready to leave an old habit behind, I pick something so much more enticing and place my focus entirely on that. So I PLAY GAMES WITH LIFE …
- I replaced being constantly unhappy with “finding the blessings”
- I replaced addiction to finding a new relationship with “noticing the positive aspects of the one I’ve got right now”
- I replaced being critical with “practicing breathing deeper, self control and holding my tongue” (very fulfilling and empowering)
- I replaced the guilt from comfort eating with “finding appreciation for taking a few minutes to relax” (whether I had food in my mouth or not)
- I replaced being too vigilant with “giving myself time to enjoy what life has to offer”
- I replaced depression with “let’s allow the anger to surface by punching my pillows and yelling in private”
- I replaced anger with “find someone else to blame so I could stop being so hard on myself”
- I replaced blame with “writing down how bad I thought my life really was”
Then after I’d written down how bad I though my life really was, I found myself thinking of a few good things too. And that was the beginning of a whole new outlook.
You see, habits are a process. They aren’t something we MUST let go, just something we CAN find a more enticing replacement for. Now, isn’t that an easier way to look at it!