Why do you FAIL TO ACHIEVE some of the things YOU WANT THE MOST?

What if there was something you simply didn’t understand, The understanding of which could CHANGE EVERYTHING? How much is it worth to find out what’s REALLY stopping you from getting what you want?

What if you could understand yourself and other people so much BETTER?

Tony Robbins says there are two invisible forces that shape who we are.
1. Moment By Moment – The state we’re in (physically and emotionally)
2. Long Term – Our model of the world (beliefs which create our feelings and lead to certain behaviors)

If you want to influence someone else,
you’ve got to understand what ALREADY influences them.

If you want to influence your subconscious mind you have to FIRST understand what’s driving it.

WHAT’S DRIVING YOU?

What is REALLY motivating you? What are you after? Let’s uncover the truth about what’s really going on here.

According to Human Needs Psychology, we ALL have 6 basic needs.

1. THE NEED FOR CERTAINTY – to avoid pain and at least be comfortable.
How do you get it? Perhaps you try to control everything, you give up every time, smoke a cigarette, develop a skill, have rituals, get married, meditate, get regular exercise, drink alcohol every day, buy your own house etc

2. THE NEED FOR UNCERTAINTY OR VARIETY – to relieve boredom.
How do you get it? Create problems you have to solve, do something different, say something different, think something different, indulge in extreme sports, shop-lift, change partners/jobs/cars/houses regularly etc

3. THE NEED FOR SIGNIFICANCE – to feel important, special, unique.
How do you get it? Making the most money, being more spiritual, having unusual tattoos, earrings in weird places, hairstyles, fighting for a cause, being a member of the best club or religion, do you get it through violence or by having a significant problem or disease etc

4. THE NEED FOR CONNECTION AND LOVE – most people settle for connection because love is too scary.
How do you get it? Through intimacy, friendship, prayer, walking in nature, being part of a group, having babies, having a problem others can commiserate with you about, like lack of money, weight problems etc

5. THE NEED FOR GROWTH – if you don’t grow you die!
How do you get it? By reading, studying, listening to inspirational speakers, taking a course, learning something new, making a risky decision etc

6. THE NEED FOR CONTRIBUTION BEYOND OURSELVES – the secret to living is giving.
How do you get it? Volunteering, helping people, teaching, creating wildlife corridors, saving the whales, donating money or time etc

WHAT MAP DO YOU USE?

What EXACTLY are your beliefs and rules? How powerful are they in determining HOW you get those needs met? Some people believe they can meet their needs by using violence, by creating something, by building something or by loving someone.

What are the TWO needs you value over all the others?

How are you meeting those needs? Are you meeting them in positive or negative ways? For example, some people value significance over the the other needs, but the SAME need can be met in different ways. Some people get significance by blowing up the World Trade Center, other people get significance by going into the building and trying and save others.

What if your beliefs guarantee you COULDN’T get to where you say you want to go?

WHAT FUEL ARE YOU CHOOSING?

The Human Needs Psychology model can really help you understand why you do what you do and find out what motivates others to do what they do too.

TRY THIS – When confronted with a behavior or habit that you really want to change, ask yourself, what NEED am I trying to meet by doing this? The answer might reveal why you’ve never been able to change it. Then put in some better quality fuel, your results will also be better quality.

For example, if you have a habit of drinking alcohol too often, what you’re REALLY wanting to create is CERTAINTY. You’re certain it will make you feel a certain way. If you drink alcohol with someone else too often, you are also meeting your need for CONNECTION and LOVE. If you drink alcohol out at different places, you are meeting your need for VARIETY. If you drink ONLY the best wine or you have created a BIG PROBLEM for yourself because of your drinking habit, you are meeting your need for SIGNIFICANCE as well. When we meet 3 or more of our needs – we are ADDICTED!

What healthy ways could you meet each of those needs instead?

TRY THIS TOO – When confronted with someone else’s behavior or habit that you really want to change, ask yourself, what NEED are THEY trying to meet by doing this? You can use that answer to meet their need in a positive way instead. Give them some better quality fuel and your relationship with them will also be better quality.

For example, when a child is yelling and screaming for your attention, what they’re REALLY wanting is love and connection. Instead of screaming back at them, you can say, “I love you no matter how you’re behaving and when you calm down I’ll give you a big hug.”

Watch this video to see how Tony describes this process …… and if you have any questions about this process, leave them in the comment box below. We’d love to help you understand yourself better.

Understanding Why We Do What We Do

About The Author: 

Elizabeth currently lives on The Gold Coast Of Australia and is a mother, teacher, business developer and author of the International Best Seller 500 Confessions. She worked as a Professional Counsellor, has trained to lead Group Therapy Workshops, attended many seminars by Robert Kiyosaki (world renowned best selling author of ‘Rich Dad Poor Dad), studied Strategic Intervention with Anthony Robbins and Cloé Madanes and is a certified Rebirth Practitioner (Australian Institute Of Rebirthing). These days Elizabeth enjoys a life of total luxury but still plays as a writer professional photographer and web designer. Her passion for living, loving and laughing, remains at the forefront of her focus.

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