There were times when I looked at what other people were doing and –
- just didn’t understand it and then felt confused, OR
- I took their actions personally, and then felt hurt, OR
- I’d think that what they were doing was plain wrong and make myself feel angry.
Strategic Intervention teaches us,
“Underneath every action is a positive intent;
to protect, to prevent or to provide.”
This was the most usefully profound statement for me, taken from the Anthony Robbins and Cloe Madanes World Class Strategic Intervention Training Course … which I’ve now turned into a primary question when interacting with others. “What is their possible underlying POSITIVE intention? Is it to protect, prevent, provide or maybe even to produce something?”
Asking this one simple question over and over has restored, transformed and significantly enhanced several of the most important relationships in my life. – ER
So I’ve stopped asking questions that lead me towards feeling bad. I ask more life enhancing questions that make me feel so much better instead. Confusion has turned to clarity, hurt has turned to understanding, anger has turned into amusement and what was once an annoying problem, has granted me a far deeper wisdom.